Ayyyy! You made it through finding your fetish and coming to terms with it. Now comes the best part of having a fetish… Exploring it.
You pretty much know exactly what it is that you like and you’re dying to put your fantasies to the test in real life. Obviously, there are normal fears attached to beginning to really explore a fetish for the first time… What if I try it and decide I don’t really like it?...What if my partner acts cool with it but really thinks it’s just too “weird” for them?... What if, what if, what if.
There are literally dozens of “what if” concerns, that are completely valid, but that have the ability to hold you back from your exploration for no real reason.
Don’t give up the potential for something incredible due to a “what if” fear. You’ll never know until you try it.
For every fetish or kink out there, there is a culture surrounding it and whether you’re single or cuffed, it’s worth diving into.
Make a kink checklist… It sounds a little too organized for fun, crazy, kinky sex, right? I totally agree, but especially if you and your partner are exploring your newly discovered fetishes together for the first time, then a checklist can actually be the ideal way to ensure everyone gets what they want.
Too many couples, whether kinky or vanilla, spend more time talking about where they’re going to eat for dinner than their sexual needs and desires. That just doesn’t seem right.
This allows you to find compatible kinks, establish what’s absolutely off the table, and what’s up for negotiation.
Dive head-first into your kink culture… We live in the 21st century where there is literally an app, chat room, or group of some sort for every fetish you could possible imagine. So go find yours! Maybe sites like Tinder and OKCupid are a little too mainstream and square for you; that’s what apps like Whiplr are for.
It’s the kinky version of Tinder so-to-speak that allows you to explore the world of kinks and fetishes via text, voice, and video chat. The same goes for sites like FetLife, Alt, and Fetish Exchange. They’ve all become go-to places for newbies and experts to come together and share experiences, advice, and things of that sort.
You can seek out potential “playmates” that have a desire to unleash similar fantasies as you or you can just talk the talk and get your feet wet in your kink culture.
Invest time into your fetish… Having a fetish is really no different than having a hobby for collecting coins or some sh*t. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending hours a day browsing and chatting on a fetish site, stocking up on toys from sex shops on the regular, or mentally checking out for a few minutes to fantasize about all of the kinky things you’re going to do to your boo when you get home.
Honestly, fetishes are probably one of the healthiest hobbies you can have. They’re a bigger part of you than you might realize and they deserve the space and time to exist in your day to day life as you please.
That’s the wonderful part about fetishes and kinks… you have complete and total control over whatever kind of freaky sex you want to have, how much time you want to spend, mentally and physically, on it, and how it will transform over time as your exploration continues.
Your kinks, your fetishes, your sex, and no one can tell you otherwise.
Now go, like right now, and get your damn freak on!
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